tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post5621211263018871128..comments2023-12-26T15:27:47.534-08:00Comments on Sarah Dawn Designs: Coping With Grief and DepressionSarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12654411781354960374noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-60050462810796731162012-08-08T14:36:14.211-07:002012-08-08T14:36:14.211-07:00You are in my prayers! I am so sorry and I know th...You are in my prayers! I am so sorry and I know that you are a fighter!Tatumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02855202308101735607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-70801833816380726522012-08-07T08:35:01.518-07:002012-08-07T08:35:01.518-07:00Oh Sarah I just read your post and am so sorry for...Oh Sarah I just read your post and am so sorry for your loss! You have a wonderful spirit and kudos to you for finding a positive way to cope with your loss. I love the T-shirt and you look sweet wearing it. Sending hugs and hoping life brings you rainbows and butterflies in the future!Debbie Lamey-MacDonaldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09731298705379921195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-6264544979397395622012-08-05T11:15:18.343-07:002012-08-05T11:15:18.343-07:00My daughter has 4th stage breast cancer - metastic...My daughter has 4th stage breast cancer - metasticized to her liver... now covered in cancer even though she has been on chemo - a heavy dose - for many months. Now she will need a 4th surgical proceedure to try to kill more of the cancer on her liver (which was cut in half by a surgery.) This time they are injecting chemo beads into her liver.<br />First I cried, then I made things, cards, to try to cheer her. (She isn't 40 yet, and has kids in school who need their Mom.) Now I am tired of being upset. Now I want to be happy - so I smile, make jokes, make quilts and try for a normal life. <br />I believe you are learning some lesson... something in your Karma that you needed to learn in this life. Acceptance of God's Design... that may be what my daughter is learning, too.<br /><br />But on the more positive side... doctors don't know everything. Babysit someone's baby. Keep back a dirty diaper... sounds gross I know. The wives from "old wives tales" used to say that was the way to get a baby. (My friend at work was married 8 years, and then they babysat their nephew - he was 13. She got pregnant just after he went home.) There is no science here. No guarantee. <br />Hugs,Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08927552672720816359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-53376181755111698612012-08-05T02:25:09.686-07:002012-08-05T02:25:09.686-07:00Hope it all works out for you - fingers crossed an...Hope it all works out for you - fingers crossed and think positive, no matter how hard it seems :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659099889227489080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-61240059727836121192012-08-05T02:23:03.898-07:002012-08-05T02:23:03.898-07:00Sarah you are thoughtful and I really enjoyed read...Sarah you are thoughtful and I really enjoyed reading your blog!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09694889345104727223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-27321529008131980932012-08-05T01:06:04.494-07:002012-08-05T01:06:04.494-07:00Good one Sarah ,And yeah your T-shirt is nice ,lov...Good one Sarah ,And yeah your T-shirt is nice ,love your outfit !!and love to share in all y networks!!rezaahmedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08608752186091528760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-60700944234780912212012-08-04T18:50:38.051-07:002012-08-04T18:50:38.051-07:00So sorry to hear about your struggles with inferti...So sorry to hear about your struggles with infertility. I can not imagine the pain you and your husband must be going through but I will pray for you both for comfort and strength.Kathleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03571565440440932215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-45823277038917967332012-08-04T10:49:52.074-07:002012-08-04T10:49:52.074-07:00Good to see clothing designed to create awareness ...Good to see clothing designed to create awareness and uplift those with depression. Hope this is the beginning of a positive and productive journey.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-44335094062646490882012-08-03T07:09:54.901-07:002012-08-03T07:09:54.901-07:00Hello, Sarah;
My wife had 9 miscarrys...Hello, Sarah;<br /> My wife had 9 miscarrys and we decided tostop trying so we would not endanger her healt. We have enough off-spring from our brothers and sisters to spoil them and not have to suffer the awful results. Let their parents correct what we have done. <br /><br /> Coming to grips with the fact that we would not have any chldren of our own, our love for each other grew stronger and has held us together for close to 32 years. I have a son by another woman, but he has never met me and as far as I know, he does not know about me. I gave up all rights to him a few days after he was born, as his Mother had found someone else to marry and he wanted to adopt him and raise him as his own. I have no regrets about doing this. A child has only one Mother, but several Dad's may pass through his life. If her new love wanted to raise him as his own, then they had my blessings.abacnokhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11622746358898304901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-69145604012083347442012-08-03T05:37:08.081-07:002012-08-03T05:37:08.081-07:00Be strong, be fighter! And watch "Monty Pytho...Be strong, be fighter! And watch "Monty Python - Always Look on the Bright Side of Life" on youtube :)http://youtu.be/jHPOzQzk9QoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-40980131956034533992012-08-02T21:02:49.267-07:002012-08-02T21:02:49.267-07:00What an inspiring post. Thank you for sharing. I h...What an inspiring post. Thank you for sharing. I have been through my own hard times and your words hit home with me. I love your T-shirts. You sound like an amazing woman.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02430448777493759705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-69434491688885943912012-08-02T17:34:38.718-07:002012-08-02T17:34:38.718-07:00Thanks Sarah for sharing these thoughts. Impressiv...Thanks Sarah for sharing these thoughts. ImpressiveErik van Ernehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03525824349121098783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-23182790098404083912012-08-02T17:33:17.509-07:002012-08-02T17:33:17.509-07:00Thanks for your post. Very relevant. Good luck to ...Thanks for your post. Very relevant. Good luck to you.Mika Douglashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06442480206027835439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-68798661943127261502012-08-02T13:06:05.630-07:002012-08-02T13:06:05.630-07:00I am so sorry for your loss. I loved the way you a...I am so sorry for your loss. I loved the way you approached this topic. The t-shirts are so cute. I am a breast cancer survivor, so grief is an issue that I face a lot. The way I face grief is by turning to the Lord and getting my strength from Him.<br /><br />Blessings~<br />ShariSharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11730656704284762754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-64196577959241720082012-08-02T00:25:00.054-07:002012-08-02T00:25:00.054-07:00I applaud your courage to share your journey - I d...I applaud your courage to share your journey - I do believe that it cleanses of our deepest pain when we do that. I salute your "wanting to give others a call for inspiration" to wake them out of that "nightmare" and suddenly realise that one does have a say in the dream or life you still want to live. I lived my life not really "loving" myself and left behind a path of self destruction and pain. I am glad I woke up - am glad that there are so many around me, who are doing the same and are helping others as well ! :-) Power to you !abhijithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05070734038302191539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-44083462654531187712012-08-01T21:30:14.907-07:002012-08-01T21:30:14.907-07:00Thank-you so much Paul for sharing your story, it ...Thank-you so much Paul for sharing your story, it is really is helpful to know that I'm not alone and to look at people like you and your wife and think that if you had the strength to persevere so can I.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12654411781354960374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-19331628886824253752012-08-01T21:26:34.811-07:002012-08-01T21:26:34.811-07:00I hope things get a little easier for your Michell...I hope things get a little easier for your Michelle. Sometimes it takes everything we have not to give up. Grief is grief no matter what it is centered around.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12654411781354960374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-90143778815274023512012-08-01T20:38:09.757-07:002012-08-01T20:38:09.757-07:00I am so sorry to learn of your losses.
Thank you...I am so sorry to learn of your losses. <br /><br />Thank you for sharing your story. Miscarriage is too often the "invisible" loss... people either don't know or don't understand how hard the loss can be.<br /><br />I am heartened to see that you are finding ways to move forward and to manage your grief.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-66426924144236620612012-08-01T20:07:30.145-07:002012-08-01T20:07:30.145-07:00Sarah, I appreciate what you have written and I kn...Sarah, I appreciate what you have written and I know exactly how you feel. My wife and I have been trying to have children over the past 15 years. We went through 3 miscarriages which resulted in the loss of 9 children. One the first try, we were expecting twin boys. Second try, we were expecting triplets. . .2 boys and 1 girl and the final try we were expecting quads. . .2 boys and 2 girls. Consequently, the last miscarriage triggered a form of leukemia in my wife known as "ALL". She was given 6 months to live and aggressive therapy began. I felt as though my whole life was falling in around me. Needless to say, that it was short of a miracle that she survived and the disease did not take her. 1 year later she was diagnosed another form of cancer and was only given 3 months to live. This was 12 years ago and she is still alive. Last year, we found out we were pregnant again. Unfortunately we lost him. Why do I say all this, to let "YOU" know that you truly are not alone! I not once ever questioned God as to "why"! I accepted it and knew that everything happened for a reason. I may not understand those reasons, but I am grateful for the experiences that I have had in my life that has strengthened not only myself as a man, but made me a better husband and companion to my wife. During those times in my life, the glass may have been "half empty", but to me it was always "half full!" My wife and I love each other so much that nothing in this life can separate us! Maybe that is what was intended. . .to give us the strength to endure all that life throws at us so that in the end we are better people because of it! God Bless you for your strength, endurance, faith and perseverance! I have a saying, "Man does not have the last say. . .God does!"Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16197636978088181101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-28432338903030416772012-08-01T19:46:18.006-07:002012-08-01T19:46:18.006-07:00Good for you... you've dealt with a lot!Good for you... you've dealt with a lot!VPerriellohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12413598459383809485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-66045341004943866142012-08-01T18:17:39.950-07:002012-08-01T18:17:39.950-07:00great post Sarah...as a pastor, much of my time is...great post Sarah...as a pastor, much of my time is invested in walking with people through grief, loss and depression...Americans don't know how to grieve...loss is a part of life, a part that no one wants, nonetheless it is inevitable...<br /><br />So often the first question I get asked by someone who has experienced a great loss or tragedy is, "Will it get better?" "Will I ever get healed from this?" Getting better and healing are not really the same thing...Will you get better? HHmm, I tend to say you will be different, that is not necessarily better or worse, but rather an realization that life is different now.<br /><br />There is a great book by Gerry Sittser I would truly suggest every human read called A Grace Disgused...here is a link to it: http://amzn.to/NmWZjW<br /><br />Here are a few thoughts from Gerry's book:<br /><br />This depth of sorrow is the sign of a healthy soul, not a sick soul. It does not have to be morbid and fatalistic. It is not something to escape but something to embrace. (p 73)<br /><br />Recovery is a misleading and empty expectation. We recover from broken limbs, not amputations. Catastrophic loss by definition precludes recovery. It will transform or destroy us, but it will never leave us the same. (p 73)<br /><br />I sometimes feel like I am a stranger to myself. I am not quite sure what to do with me. (p 81)<br /><br />Loss creates a new set of circumstances in which we must live. (p 85)<br /><br />Loss establishes a new context for life. (p 86)<br /><br />The tragedy pushed me toward God, even when I did not want Him. And in God I found grace, even when I was not looking for it. (p 90)<br /><br />I am praying with and for you :-)<br /><br />Montymc wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05923336745448284444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-57936169927768742152012-08-01T17:54:58.961-07:002012-08-01T17:54:58.961-07:00keep calm keep fighting!keep calm keep fighting!Goeringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12151717409049361447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-71442233071445291662012-08-01T17:51:00.959-07:002012-08-01T17:51:00.959-07:00Thank you for writing and sharing this wonderful p...Thank you for writing and sharing this wonderful post. I really needed to read this today. My grief is different today about something else, but one thing I need to remember is to keep fighting and not to give up. I'm very tired. Mine is not as great as yours.Michelle Gilstraphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01985348821099274905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-28578472469373153942012-08-01T01:22:08.814-07:002012-08-01T01:22:08.814-07:00I'm so proud of you. Being able to share your ...I'm so proud of you. Being able to share your grief is a huge step to move forward through the pain. I can't imagine the pain of a miscarriage, but I know what it like not to be able to give my daughter siblings. I do know what it's like to be overwhelmed with depression and anxiety. Hang on to God. He'll get you through. Know that you're loved and If you ever need to talk, I'm here.Lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09338075228800898623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2474943585775773695.post-75756255804701340572012-07-31T10:47:07.170-07:002012-07-31T10:47:07.170-07:00I totally want a shirt like that! Love it, good wo...I totally want a shirt like that! Love it, good work. And you are a fighter. I don't know really what to say other than I'm sorry. Love you!Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14296702663697206688noreply@blogger.com